Some of you have no problem being single. But I also know that many of you are deeply discontented in the season you find yourself in.
I saw my first counselor as a 20-something while experiencing a major collision of “weary, worried, and wandering.” In other words, I was having a quarter life crisis. My counselor listened patiently to my concerns and fears about life – things that felt really vulnerable to share out loud. He taught me about the relationship between my thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and how they interact with one another. It was very empowering to realize that my thoughts were quite normal and that I had choices about what to do with them. My feelings of loneliness and my anxieties about the future were normalized as well.
At the time, I was stuck and despairing around my singleness and the judgments I placed on myself around that season of life. I cried in session several times, but I also laughed quite a bit as well. This time in my life felt uncomfortable and chaotic, and I was glad to have someone a little older and wiser to be with me through it. That transition, and each one since, has helped me transform from my old self, into a more resilient self. I’ve become less and less inclined to try to muscle through these growing pains on my own. My hope is that you won’t try to either.
~Jeanna
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